“And suddenly you know……..It’s time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings.”
Molly ended her 6 year relationship after much soul searching and sleepless nights. Her significant other, Brian wasn’t enjoying the relationship either but they both seemed paralyzed to end it.
Most of their friends were in relationships or married. They were in their 30’s, no children, so it seemed to fit that they would just stay together. That’s what everyone else their age were doing.
They had been in love and seemed to meet each other’s needs for a long time but yet their differences were often an issue. Sometimes talked about, sometimes not. Maybe it was the “sometimes not” that did the most damage. Like many situations in our lives, sometimes we wait too long and the damage cannot be repaired.
Relationships change. People change.
Jennifer worked for a large, well know company in their corporate office. The description of the job and the interview with management convinced her that the job was right for her. The cubicle was not exactly the office of her choice but she hoped it would work.
The job was a great fit for most of her 5 years. There were ups and downs but as year 5 approached, the work load had increased significantly but the money had not. There were some irritations with upper management that were growing in size.
Jennifer began to have trouble sleeping, her mood was often irritable and she was not finding much enjoyment in her work. She started taking an anti-depressant, but did not feel that much better. She was isolating more and cancelling dates with friends.
My wife started acting extremely strangely after she got an Ambien prescription. She would go to sleep quickly and wake up fully rested. But in between, she started doing bizarre things in her sleep. She would get up and brush her teeth, or just sit in front of the https://j-galt.com/ambien-10mg/ dryer.
She also started writing in her journal again for the first time since I met her. She’s Korean though, so I can’t understand what she’s writing.
Jobs change. People change.
It becomes an impossibility to hammer the square peg into the round hole but many of us continue to beat the square peg. Life does offer round pegs.
Change your life for you………..it doesn’t matter what everyone else is doing.
“They laugh at me because I’m different. I laugh at them because they’re all the same.”
Kurt Cobain
Vicki L Mayfield, M.Ed., R.N., LMFT Marriage and Family Therapy Oklahoma City
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